Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Single White Female

I really thought that at 30 years old I would know a lot about a lot of things. Unfortunately, one of those things is not dating! I was married young and am now divorced with 2 kids and contemplating entering the dating world again. Mind you, I've been separated for almost 2 years so it's not as if I just left my husband yesterday. And still, dating terrifies me! I dated before I married, if you can call a string of one night stands dating, and I thought I learned a lot about what to do and what not to do and what to look out for. Apparently, I was dead wrong!

Ten years later, the world of the single woman has completely changed. It used to be that you went to a bar, a random bookstore, a coffee shop ran into an interesting man and BOOM!! dating began. That doesn't seem to be the case anymore. I've been to bars, book stores, and coffee shops....there are no men there! At least not any single, half way attractive, semi-employed, possibly interesting men. There are couples at these places. Kissing, hugging, snuggling couples....blissfully happy and off the market! I've been fixed up one time....total disaster! So, where does a single woman go to meet a man....

This past weekend I was at my cousins wedding. I'm thinking, I've heard the old wives tails about people meeting at weddings....not so much! Everyone was with someone and by the way, I had a date, I actually had 2 dates.....yeah, they were both shorter then 5 feet and they call me "mom." It seems as if everything is geared toward couples! I swear I was the only singleton there....it was depressing!

This realization brought me to a very interesting conversation with my other cousin's new bride (insert gaging motion!). They met on one of those dating websites. This got me thinking....am I gonna have to resort to internet dating just to meet a halfway normal guy? I'm not sure I'm up to that! How does some computer equation quantify a connection? How do I look at a picture and a profile and decide this is someone I wanna spend time with?

Online dating....Yes? No? Thoughts...

**The Long of it**

2 comments:

Mandi said...

I hope you don't mind that I'm commenting again - I just posted a comment last night! And I don't even know you, and you don't know me besides my name, but here goes!

I met my husband in January of 98 in a chat room online. That was back when it was still a very scary way to meet someone. It was perfect for us - we got to know someone on such a deep level. I loved his sense of humor and after months of talking to someone online and on the phone, you can REALLY get to know them.

I'm saying all that, because yes, I would definitely give the online thing a try. I've heard good things about eharmony, and if I ever had to get back into the dating thing (Lord willing, that will NEVER happen) I would give it a try. I've heard many stories about people having success.

Good luck to you - I'm a 30 year old mom of three. You have to believe that your perfect match is out there for you - you have so much of the best times of your life ahead of you. Mandi

The Long and the Short of it said...

Hi Mandi....Thank you for your kind words! I really appreciate the encouragement cause I feel like I'm kissin a lot of frogs right now! We love the comments...keep them coming!:)
**The Long of it**